You want a perfect life. That’s totally okay, we all feel that way. But what does perfection mean to us really? The common curse of perfectionism has its charms, but it ultimately holds us back from enjoying life.

Illusion of Perfection

Being flawless represents safety and status. We see the perfect ideal in famous, celebrated, and hated celebrities. In reality, those perceived to be the most successful often suffer the most by losing themselves.

The Carrot or the Stick

The carrot is the horizon, an imaginary line that recedes as you get closer. It’s a promise that’s never fulfilled and creates desperation. The stick is the threat of not good enough creating an action-based sense of self-worth.

Perfectionism Signs

• Burnout and self-sabotage
• Unrealistic or unhealthy goals
• Choosing perfect over peaceful
• Missing out on life for the details
• Procrastination and fear of failure

How to Purge Perfectionism

Remind yourself daily that it’s ideal to be human. This is a constantly moving train, there’s no end point. Don’t miss out on all the ways you’re growing, changing, and learning for some imaginary fixed state.

• It’s okay not to know
• It’s okay to be emotional
• It’s okay to make mistakes
• It’s okay to be seen as I am
• Progress is better than perfect

Conclusion

Perfectionism weakens gratitude, presence, and self-compassion. Keep the urge at bay by consistently reminding yourself it’s okay to be where you are. You’re a constantly unfolding story that never stops and only gets better.